Maybe polyamory is not your jam.

Maybe ambiamory—the ability to enjoy both monogamy and polyamory with little to no preference between the two—is still a bit much.

Maybe monogamish sounds vague to you—or 10% more poly than how you really feel.

But maaaybe, just maybe, the idea of strict lifelong monogamy also doesn’t fully apply to you.

Mindful Swiping is a way to use online dating as a mindfulness practice—one that helps us cultivate love, awareness, presence, equanimity, and genuine care for ourselves and others while we look for romantic connection.

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These questions are designed to assist you in the process of understanding the person in front of you!

Sometimes you just got to f*ck shit up, and say good-BYE to stagnancy!

After earning advanced degrees and seeking answers from a mental standpoint for my entire life, I can say this with confidence: the ultimate intelligence isn’t to be found in books or classes.

There’s no question: romantic rejection is one of the most painful of all human experiences. But it also is an opportunity to heal and grow into greater mastery. While the “medicine” of rejection is no doubt a harsh one, a conscious response to it can catalyze a whole new level of love, freedom, peace, and acceptance for ourselves and for life itself.

In psychedelic therapy, “Set” is short for one's mindset—the mental state a person brings to the experience. “Setting” refers to the environment in which the user has the experience.

In dating, we might not be able to control the outcome of our interactions—but we DO have the power to be intentional about our “set and setting”!

Narrative coherence is a psychological concept that refers to "the overall completeness of the narrative that helps us draw meaning from past events". Mindful dating helps improve it and our ability to create secure intimate bonds.

Don’t let hurt feelings run your life and manipulate the people you love into compliance with your scripts!

Creating strong bonds has to come from a MUTUAL desire to LOVE & care for one another’s heart… it cannot come from control.

And the best way to stoke that mutual desire is to put pride aside and love fiercely.

Instead of “gaming” dating and relationships into a win/lose strategy, let’s use every interaction as a window for understanding who we are—so that we’re no longer slaves to the unconscious demons that sabotage our actual ability to love.

While finding authentic love in this world has never been easy, I’ll argue any day that we have a better shot at it now than we did in generations past.

What is novogamy? Novogamy is the freedom to adopt any relationship structure that suits you and your partner(s) in a consensual manner, at any given point, without binding yourself to a rigid identity or set of beliefs.

Stepping off the hamster wheel of the zero-sum dating paradigm, and Dating with Love instead, is a life-changing process that can permanently improve your relationship to yourself, others, and the higher powers that be.

One of my clients recently moved back to her home country in South America, after spending 3 years in the SF Bay Area to complete her studies. When I saw her on Zoom this morning, she looked completely different: she seemed more grounded, happy, and at ease than ever before. I asked how her new location affected her relationship to dating: she said, “I feel ready for a relationship now.”

Curiosity shows that we care. Curiosity says, “you matter to me”. Curiosity says, “I want my connection with you to leave me transformed”.

Love is about looking at people with fresh eyes every day! Thus, the good news is that relationships and sexuality can be a highway to reclaiming our most receptive and curious selves.

We often keep our hearts closed and protected because of the possibility of pain that comes when we open them up.

There are certainly good reasons to do so. However, we may be shutting the door to an entire realm of magic, transformation, and aliveness when we delay healing our fears and creating love from inside—which is a vulnerable and tender process, but also a wholesome and life-affirming one.

Mindful Swiping is a way to use online dating as a mindfulness practice—one that helps us cultivate love, awareness, presence, equanimity, and genuine care for ourselves and others while we look for romantic connection.

✨ More than a few of my clients say that they are looking for a magical connection.

✨ But saying YES to a magical love life implies taking a big risk: heartbreak.

✨ Being in love is inseparable from the possibility of painfully experiencing separation from our beloved.

✨ Sometimes, the fear of heartbreak traps us into patterns of keeping intimacy at arm’s length.

✨ No relationship is ever pain-free. To create a magical love life, you will need to take some emotional risks.

✨ That said, it is possible to do so with acute discernment and a well-equipped toolkit.

✨ This post describes some of the skills and inner resolve you need to share love beyond fear.

Feeling cynical about dating & relationships?

🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t blame you. Dating & relationships are a hotbed of bad behavior and disappointments.

😢 Ghosting, gaslighting, selfishness, rejection, abusive patterns, poor communication, flakiness, betrayal, entitlement, deflection of responsibility… There are myriad ways to get disappointed in relationships.

This post reveals what I found to be the main steps on the journey from jadedness to in-loveness.

Here’s my personal “recipe” for making a friend. I have seen this work in my own life, and in the lives of countless clients. I encourage you to use it, share it, and let me know how this works for you :)