In a long dating rut? F*ck shit up!
Dear Love InSight Friends,
Are you caught in a LOOONG, possibly multi-year, dating RUT?
Sometimes you just got to f*ck shit up, and say good-BYE to stagnancy!
I see so many great people get “stuck” in dating ruts for YEARS on end—and consider the entire enterprise of meeting new people BORING, HEAVY, and a CHORE…
The whole thing sort of becomes a low-vibe, demoralizing, self-fulfilling prophecy. Yikes.
Let’s spice things up, shall we? 🌶️
I’m not NECESSARILY talking about spicing things up sexually—although that can be ONE of many possible catalysts in your rut-breaking adventure!
👏🏻 I’m overall talking about YOU volunteering to get OUT of your comfort zone! 👏🏻
Throw away your old ideas of what dating should look like for a while. Have fun. Use a beginner’s mind. Push your own boundaries!
That can look like:
Going on random adventures in your town, rather than predictable (yawn) dinner dates
Trying out activities outside your normal “go-to” stuff—both solo and with others
Going out with people who aren’t your usual “type”
Asking unique questions on dates (check out one of my last Instagram postsfor suggestions!)
Traveling to a place you’ve never been (it could literally be one town away from yours) and looking for people to flirt with
Taking a new class or workshop
Joining a random new Meetup or community
It can honestly look a million different ways. Just challenge yourself tointentionally blow your own mind.
💥 Stop looking for that “magic formula” or the “happily-ever-after” fairytale. It might be preventing you from being present to the magic that’s right in front of you.
Try shuffling the decks a bit, and recalibrating your own inner GPS instead. Just like traveling to a foreign country can open up our eyes to a different way of seeing the world, blowing up our old habits and trying out “off-the-wall” things can reveal a whole new perspective on love and connection.
That recalibration WILL be sped up when you get out of your own orbit, and flood yourself with fresh experiences! 💦
You might find unexpected pleasure and liberation in unexpected places, and with unexpected people.
Play safe, be smart, be kind—but say GOOD-BYE to stagnancy!
🌶️ If you want extra support and pizzazz on your journey… and want to f*ck shit up in a healthy, generative, and awesome way—talk to me! I’d love to help! 🙏
With love and #fuckyeah vibes,
Marie 💕
